Girl Stop Apologizing A Shame Free Plan for Embracing and

Girl Stop Apologizing A Shame Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals [PDF / EPUB] Girl Stop Apologizing A Shame Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals “I believe we can change the world But first we’ve got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are”Rachel Hollis has seen it too often women not living into their full potential They f “I believe we can Apologizing A Kindle Ñ change the world But first we’ve got to stop living Girl Stop PDF/EPUB ² in fear of being judged for who we are”Rachel Hollis has seen it too often Stop Apologizing A Kindle ´ women not living into their full potential They feel a tugging on their hearts for Stop Apologizing A Shame Free ePUB Ñ something but they’re afraid of embarrassment of falling short of perfection of not being enoughIn Girl Stop Apologizing New York Times bestselling author and founder of a multimillion dollar media company Rachel Hollis sounds a wake up call She knows that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people—whether as wife mother daughter or employee—instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of the behaviors to adopt and the skills to acuire on the path to growth confidence and believing in yourself .

  • Hardcover
  • 240 pages
  • Girl Stop Apologizing A Shame Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals
  • Rachel Hollis
  • English
  • 05 March 2015
  • 9781400209606

About the Author: Rachel Hollis

Rachel laid the foundation Apologizing A Kindle Ñ for her lifestyle brand and media company with the same Girl Stop PDF/EPUB ² unfiltered honesty and staunch inclusivity that made her a two time New York Times Stop Apologizing A Kindle ´ bestselling author Hollis connects with a highly engaged and growing global audience of women who Stop Apologizing A Shame Free ePUB Ñ treasure her transparency and optimism She is one of the most sought after motivational speakers plays host to one of today’s top.

10 thoughts on “Girl Stop Apologizing A Shame Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals

  1. says:

    Boiled down this book is about embracing and expressing who you are without apology That message I can get behind The general layout is first addressing the excuses to let go of that keep you stuck adopting great habits that set you up for success and then acuiring the skills necessary to make growth possibleI’m breaking my review into three parts because I have complicated feelings towards Rachel Hollis She is a motivator and an inspirational speaker – that you cannot argue with She knows how to pump you up and how to kick you in the butt to get you going So there are some things I got out of this book As with anyone and anything there are some personality uirks and little things that just aren’t my favorite or not my style Beyond those annoyances and style differences though there are some truly problematic things that RH says in this book She has a large cult following who overlook these things but they are not okayAs a disclaimer I have read her previous book followed her online for years viewed her documentary seen countless live videos and Instagram posts read tons of email newsletters and been a general fan of RH for a long time up until the last few months So this is not a negative nancy review coming from a cranky curmudgeonly troll This is someone who sees the immense power in her influence and wishes she’d listen and do betterPositive things I got out of this book andor things I am glad she said Rachel discusses how as children we pick up on the behaviors that are going to get us attention which we generally euate to love If we aren’t extremely self aware these behaviors will remain well into adulthood as ways to earn love and affection and these habits and beliefs about who we’re supposed to be can be damaging to our adult growth Letting other people’s support of youappreciation of you determine how you embrace yourself or live your life is just stupid “Are you a shadow of who you’re meant to be because someone in your life doesn’t fully appreciate you?” She actually addressed feminism and how we culture little boys and girls as children to become the grown men who can actually function in society and grown women who are crippled by the idea that their worth is found in how good they are for other people Basic boundary and schedule stuff It’s old news for me but a lot of women still have no idea they can actually say no to people leave toxic relationships or change their schedule so they’re not exhausted 247 So I’m sure this was beneficial for many readers Set aside 5 hrsweek to reach your goal and treat that time as sacred Aim for feeling centeredgrounded not balanced “Mommy guilt is bullshit” claps all around I honestly loved her bit about guilt shame specifically in reference to the religious community she grew up in and how it translated into her sex life as an adult “Are you humble enough to suck for as long as it takes you to become better?” You’re allowed to do things that inconvenience other people And in reference to that “If you’re willing to do it for them you better be willing to demand they do it for you” I also love her tough love that if you can’t find an hour in your day to yourself you’re not really living My first gut reaction is to get defensive of the moms she’s speaking to but I really do believe this for most people most of the time and I think this is one of those things that you need someone to tough love you onLittle things I was not personally a fan of A LOT of pop culture references The book starts off with a story about a Demi Lovato song and there are references to Beyonce Oprah the Kardashians Lady Gaga Kendrick Lamar and throughout She is a wealthy woman and it makes her extremely unrelatable At one point she said “You know how when you meet with a nutritionist for the first time and they have you write down everything you eat in a week?” I actually laughed out loud at the idea of her thinking hiring a nutritionist is relatable content She also recommends you take a weekly date night with your spouse and talks about how they keep their marriage healthy by going on “extravagant vacations every year without kids” Felt a little like a not so humblebrag Lots of talk about her goals being bestseller list flying first class her follower count her makeup her hair plastic surgery and her resulting great boobs Just a lot of status symbols as goals Problematic things that are objectively not okay in this book Rachel doesn’t seem to realize that 90% of the things she says are extremely albeist and harmful to people with chronic illness mental illness andor disabilities Examples “Still using a diaper at 32? That would NOT be cute” She says that if there’s anything wrong with you or you’re suffering in any way in pain at all or unhappy that you’re not focusing enough on your own self care that you just don’t GET “self care” I’d like to see her say that straight to the face of someone with chronic illness or chronic pain She also mentions several times that if you’re not in tip top shape physically and emotionally you will have a lot harder time reaching your goals and being successful Rachel is obsessed with weight appearance exercise and body size Unhealthily obsessed and it’s not okay She falls into fat shaming several times in this book which I wasn’t surprised by but the sheer uantity of mentions of “getting in shape” and “sticking to your diet” and “losing that weight” was actually baffling I wish I had counted them Examples She uotes herself as “severely overweight” yet has said in multiple places that she was a 12 maybe a 14? at her heaviest – to call a 12 14 smaller than the average American woman “severely overweight” is objectively unhelpful stupid harmful and fatphobic She summarizes being overweight as being not the best version of yourself and not the best mom you could be “It’s so simple to lose weight It’s so simple to get in shape It’s simple but it’s not easy” further reinforcing that if you’re overweight it’s because you’re lazy shortsighted because you can’t hold out for the joy of a future hot bod when that Chick fil A sauce is calling your name and you don’t have the willpower to look attractive And my favorite – “There are no overweight animals in nature” Literally RIGHT after she says that it doesn’t matter what size you are or what your weight is she says “There are no overweight animals in nature” and “The only animals that are overweight are the ones that live in our homes Pets are overweight You are not a pet You are a powerful beautiful bold woman and you will treat yourself as such” I truly have NO words And a second favorite – she’s discussing her breast size after babies and says she went from a perfect B to an E cup “E That’s a cup size E as in ELEPHANT as in ENORMOUS as in YOWZA” No joke Still I have no words for this woman’s opinion of larger bodies Along with weight she doesn’t seem to know exactly what she wants to tell you about it Several times she’ll tell you not to live in the “I’m too fat” feelings and encourages you to change your mindset by writing yourself a letter about all the times your body was incredible but then she tells you a story about how much she hated her post baby boobs so instead of learning body positivity she spent thousands of dollars on plastic surgery There’s nothing inherently wrong with plastic surgery but be straight up about whether or not your solution to hating your body is a healthy perspectivemindset shift OR if it’s just doing whatever it takes to make your body look like the idea you have in your head Which is obviously destructive and she doesn’t give uantifiers for people with eating disorders andor unhealthy relationships to food All she cares about is – “if you don’t feel good about the way you look what are you waiting for????” She walks this weird line between acknowledging her privilege and thinking she is where she’s at because of her own merit alone There was a whole rant in the book about how disappointed she was in some celebrity for not acknowledging they had help with raising kids and running a business and she talks a lot about all of the professional help they have around the house and with the kids but still in other places it felt like she just doesn’t get it She talks about how when she wanted to start her wedding planning business she just went and got an unpaid internship and dealt with abuse from clients for a long time so she could learn the skills and network I don’t know about any of y’all but I couldn’t afford the sacrifice of time choosing to work for free means sacrificing time you could work for money so it does in fact cost money to do an unpaid internship and I don’t even have children She could afford to do that because her husband had a crazy job at Disney and could afford for her to not make any money AND they had a freaking nanny full time But instead she just says that she worked hard and traded her current comfort for the future end result she wanted She continues to talk about how she built her business with only hard work hustle and a Google search but also takes the time to point out all the people who helped her in the early stages of her business even going so far as to say that no one is truly self made It’s very confusing Rachel Hollis has a major problem with stealing people’s intellectual property It’s been in the news for a long time and I was honestly skeptical that she was maliciously stealing mommy blogger’s uotes and info but after reading this book I’m much of a believer I counted at least 15 uotes in this book that she pretended were her own idea No attribution no citing no reference to the person who originally said the phrase She just rolled it into her own content pretending she came up with it A list for you “Hope is not a strategy” “I love Jesus but I cuss a little” The uote about how if you’re not in the arena taking punches you can’t criticize me Teddy Roosevelt uote originally and Brené Brown has been applying it to her work for years “You can’t take care of anyone if you don’t take care of yourself first” The uote about aiming at what you can hit vs aiming higher and flying has been rendered many times but isn’t original to her “Be interested than you strive to be interesting” “If everything is important then nothing is” “If it’s not true for everyone it shouldn’t be true for anyone” “You are a combination of the 5 people you hang out with most” The uote about how the only way you fail is if you don’t try at all and don’t accomplish anything as a result “If you want to change someone else change yourself” seems to be a pretty close rendition of Gandhi’s uote about changing the world “Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business” “Don’t compare your beginning with someone else’s middle” “If you want something you’ve never had you have to do something you’ve never done” Thomas Jefferson “You cannot control the circumstances of your life; you can only control your reaction to them” SHE DID NOT WRITE THESE UOTES OR COME UP WITH THESE IDEAS Rachel has a serious problem with the working class and it’s not okay to toss your mom under the bus for making you boxed cake every year for your birthday C’mon That’s tacky She states in her section about her mom leaving her dad that it was essentially ridiculous for her mom to move out because “you cannot assert your independence if you don’t have the financial means to back it up” I don’t have the time or energy to go into how destructive this is as an idea for women in abusive relationships but it’s severely disappointing that she’d say something like this without thinking it through and that none of her very well paid editors caught this massive mistake There are other ways she could have communicated the same general idea if she really wanted to talk about how traumatic it was for her to not be wealthy as a child I grew up fairly poor so I understand the underlying feelings but I would share them in way less immature ways she could have done that Instead she tossed out a careless statement that can and will be used to make women in abusive relationships feel like they cannot leave if they don’t have financial independence to do so and that’s definitely not something we need of in the world She states that you can go cold turkey on addiction if your why is strong enough as she did with smoking and that’s not great She doesn’t understand addiction or mental illness and continues to pretend she is the euivalent of a mental health professional and continues to spew the garbage that if you only have a strong enough willpower you can get rid of any mental illness or addiction you may have The Audible version does include two bonus features a session from the Rise conference I didn’t listen to it – the book was already too much and I’ve seen the documentary already and a meditation on gratitude which I did listen to I appreciated her trying to teach meditation but she could have first done a little research into how to guide meditation well – she didn’t leave enough uiet space for anyone to actually meditate with her She talked nonstop for the 5 minute duration Overall I would not encourage you to read this book There were some positive things but I think the negative and destructive ideas she continues to push at her readers are too bad for me to recommend this book in good conscienceEDIT since this review has gotten so much traction If you are looking for an empowering book that addresses where you're at as a woman and moves you to be the best version of yourself with a slightly Christianreligious lens I strongly recommend Fierce Free and Full of Fire by Jen Hatmaker Jen is Christian but I believe the book is applicable for anyone regardless of faith background she outright says this herself in the book It will empower you without tearing you down

  2. says:

    I didn't think it was possible but I enjoyed this one even than Girl Wash Your Face I didn't know who Rachel Hollis was until I read Girl Wash Your Face earlier this year but I am glad Goodread suggested that book and I am beyond thrilled that I got an Advance Reader's copy of this book because it is amazing Hollis is SO inspiring and SO energetic that you cannot help but to get excited about your dreams and goals She says things and your like Oh My Gosh I so do that I finished the book and came straight here to review it and I am giving it to someone to read tomorrow even though they aren't aware of it This book is one every woman should read Thank you for empowering women

  3. says:

    Rachel’s first book Girl Wash Your Face has made headlines and is a #1 New York Times Bestseller I have not read the first book so I can’t compare it to this one but I found the second book Girl Stop Apologizing very goodNow whether you agree with me or not will depend on your viewpoints If you are a fervent Christian who believes women should not work outside of the home then you will not like the book It’s about making goals and following them and not making apologies for having those goalsIf however you have a feminist viewpoint you will love the book If you have a mixture of the two like me you will also find the book helpful and although you likely won’t agree with the way Rachel does things in some regards you will be able to use what you find helpful So from my viewpoint it’s a 5 star book But I understand why some people take offense to the book based on their viewsSo what’s in the book?First Rachel shares excuses we should let go of if we want to accomplish our goals These includes things like I don’t have time I’m terrified of failure or What will they think? Then she goes over behaviours we need to adopt such as stop asking permission and ask for help Finally she goes over skills you need to acuire and how such as confidence effectiveness and positivityRead the full review

  4. says:

    I find Rachel to be very motivational I share her views on everything so far but sometimes you need someone else to tell you what you already knowSo I finished the book and all I can say is that Girl Wash Your Face is the gentle prelude to this no nonsense make no excuses motivational pre game go out there and kill it pep talk If you plan on hanging onto any reasons as to why you can’t reach your goals this book is not meant for you My takeaway was this 1 No matter who you are or where you come from there is zero reason you should not be pursuing the best version of yourself 2 Make sure your goals are YOUR goals Don’t try and live someone else’s life or let someone try and live yours

  5. says:

    I loved this book Great ideas and tips I could have done without the long Intro Other than that she doesn’t disappoint

  6. says:

    This was AMAZING Excerpt from my reviewSacrifices such as not binge ing the next season of Stranger Things right away like everyone else because you're too busy working on your own goals Or working on a project for your own timeline while your family is having a board game night in the next room These are scenarios I struggle with Because I want to do bothRachel talks about writing this book while she's at one of her son's games and having other parents give her snooty looks for not paying attention while she's using the time to write her book Okay but when else are you supposed to fit everything that you want to do into the time you have? I want to have fun and join in and make those memories but how much do I want to write a book or achieve those other bucket list goals? The sacrifices I have to be willing to make are some of the things that have been forced under my nose from reading this book and cause me to uestion what it is I truly want to attain and how am I going to get thereRead my full review here

  7. says:

    So very very good 🙌🏼Full review on my blog to Harper Collins Canada for the ARC

  8. says:

    Earlier this year I read Girl Wash Your Face I hesitant to read it at first because 1 I had no idea who the author was so why would I want her advice on living? and 2 I read that it had a religious slant – nothing wrong with this just not for me I kept hearing about it so I gave it a try and was not disappointed I found Hollis to be very likable engaging and motivating The book is not really about one thing in particular but rather the general concept that only YOU are responsible for determining how you live your life and what you make of it Who can argue with that? Apparently uite a few people on Goodreads Anyway when I got the chance to read Hollis’ follow up Girl Stop Apologizing to be released March 2019 I jumped I think it was even stronger than the first because it includes so many practical tips and frameworks for goal setting and goal reaching not just amusing anecdotes – although there are plenty of those too It’s definitely worth a read if you are looking for a “kick in the pants” motivation boosthttpswwwinstagramcompBa082gHUL2

  9. says:

    I won an ARC of this book through Goodreads Giveaways and just finished it a couple of days ago This book is so motivational It has made me look at the way I try to accomplish goals in a whole new light I have a whole new plan for trying to tackle my goals to make my dreams come true Since finishing this book I have already started making a plan of action because this year I’m getting shit done I highly recommend this book if you’ve always had big dreams but never really had a plan of action for accomplishing them or even knew where to begin Also if you are good at starting towards your goals but then get unmotivated because you feel like nothing is happening then this is the book for you Your goals take some thought and breakdown to ultimately reach the end Rachel breaks the path down into “Guideposts” and “Mile Markers” that you are trying to reach and overcome You must complete the mile markers to get to the next guidepost with the end result ultimately being accomplishing your goal With a little hard work and dedication anyone can make their dreams happen #books #reading #goals #dreams #girlstopapologizing #rachelhollis

  10. says:

    I was super excited to win this advance copy of Girl Stop Apologizing from Goodreads What a great book to end the yearstart the new year on I will be honest that I was a bit underwhelmed by the beginning of the book It felt like a re worded edition of things she has written before But I did feel like there was some solid new material to finish the book Definitely glad I stuck it out and finished the book Though her story is not my story and her focus is not my own I believe she has a powerful message to share about making positive change in your life I think the key is to walk away with the truths that speak to you and apply them

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