How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age


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    Simple advice Listen Remember people s names Smile And yet, I forget My only criticism I would have likedexamples that related to the digital realm If I d read the original How to Win Friends , I may not have found enough new information to be satisfied Favorite TidbitsYou can makefriends in two months by becominginterested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you The two highest levels of influence are achieved when 1 peop Simple advice Listen Remember people s names Smile And yet, I forget My only criticism I would have likedexamples that related to the digital realm If I d read the original How to Win Friends , I may not have found enough new information to be satisfied Favorite TidbitsYou can makefriends in two months by becominginterested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you The two highest levels of influence are achieved when 1 people follow you because of what you ve done for them and 2 people follow you because of who you are.Fae to face was the expectation Today it is the exception.It thus seems to be the case, online as well as offline, that when you smile, the world smiles with you Outside of emoticonsthere is only one medium in which you can convey a digital smile your voice, whether it is written or spoken How you write an email, the tone you use, and the words you choose are critical tools of friendliness and subsequent influence Always begin an end the message on a positive note rather than a pessimistic or detached one i.e compliment sandwich T he size of our brains limits our ability to manage social circles to around 150 friends, regardless of our sociability So much of our time online is spent arguing or feeding argumentsFew of these arguments change people s minds Because the arguments are digitally veiled and lack the clear cut consequences of tangible confrontations, both parties can get away with devolving into snarky personal attacks and passive ambiguity the least effective tools of human relations All effective problem solvingbegins with an emptying of the mind of what we know or what we think we should know.Admit that you may be wrong Concede that the other person may be right Be agreeable Ask questions And above all, consider the situation from the other s perspective and show that person respect.When we recognize and admit our errors, the response from others is typically forgiveness and generosity We areinclined to agree with another person or see things from his perspective when we have friendly feelings toward him.If you believe building a friendly rapport will be critical to achieving a certain outcome, using texts, chats, or other short forms of communication isn t likely to get you very far Either you can seek success for those who are already friends or you can seek success for those who are already friends.When your journey is our journey, we are both compelled to see where it goes Three for one rule You must write down three positive things about a person before you can attempt to address any behavior that you perceive as negative When we talk about our mistakes, it makes us human It becomes easier for people to relate to usBy admitting your own mistakes, you direct the other person s attention away from his own you soften the approach and avoid raising his defenses immediately The leader understands that mistakes and failures surface from all corners of life and, therefore, should be treated as isolated and redeemable instances rather than fatal flaws It is to your advantage to pull people out of their dejected state as quickly as possibly Do so by calling out their mistakes quietly and returning them to a place of confidence and strength Ask questions instead of giving direct orders


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    Picked this up after hearing a positive review from a friend to see if this book has any insight I could use in my social media interactions While I agree with and appreciate the principles in this book, it is full of stories and examples that drive home WHY certain tactics work or don t work, but it lacks practical advice on HOW to implement most of the strategies It s like look at all this research and these people who prove that X is the right thing to do Now go do it when in many cases Picked this up after hearing a positive review from a friend to see if this book has any insight I could use in my social media interactions While I agree with and appreciate the principles in this book, it is full of stories and examples that drive home WHY certain tactics work or don t work, but it lacks practical advice on HOW to implement most of the strategies It s like look at all this research and these people who prove that X is the right thing to do Now go do it when in many cases it isn t that simple.While it had great insight, it s definitely aimedtoward professional accounts and didn t seem super relevant to many of the interactions I have on my personal social media


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    I loved the focus on valuing people So much to think about and great things to consider in day to day interactions My one complaint is just that there were a lot of examples given for each point that didn t always feel totally necessary But highly recommend this book.


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    The original Carnegie classic How to to Win Friends and Influence People is a 10 out of 10 of classic books How to Stop Worrying and Start Living was a pick me up I read when I was 23, and influenced me greatly.So why the low score here Well, the big thing that is missing is the Carnegie voice The stories here arerelevant to our era rival directors at a fortune 100 company, using the King s Speech as a movie to reference overcoming strugglebut it doesn t ring as authentic or in The original Carnegie classic How to to Win Friends and Influence People is a 10 out of 10 of classic books How to Stop Worrying and Start Living was a pick me up I read when I was 23, and influenced me greatly.So why the low score here Well, the big thing that is missing is the Carnegie voice The stories here arerelevant to our era rival directors at a fortune 100 company, using the King s Speech as a movie to reference overcoming strugglebut it doesn t ring as authentic or inspriing as Carnegie s everyday sunshine Further, The Digital Age is like an add on, since there is really nothing substantial written about using technology to improve relations with friends So the book feels oddly pedestrian and indistinguishable from the Carnegie classics Such advice may be timelist and improve your life dramatically But to those of us who have red the original rife with humor and a charismatic voice we know why Carnegie is so beloved


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    This book is absolutely fantastic You have to read it Since there are a great too many things to say, I will try to summarize those most important quotes advices teachings in short phrases so that you can have a general idea of it For me, the most important lessons from Dale s revealing book are 1 NOBODY IS EVER GUILTY NOT EVEN SERIAL KILLERS , so, don t expect self condemnation from anyone If you need to call someone s attention for some wrong doing, and bring the person to your sid This book is absolutely fantastic You have to read it Since there are a great too many things to say, I will try to summarize those most important quotes advices teachings in short phrases so that you can have a general idea of it For me, the most important lessons from Dale s revealing book are 1 NOBODY IS EVER GUILTY NOT EVEN SERIAL KILLERS , so, don t expect self condemnation from anyone If you need to call someone s attention for some wrong doing, and bring the person to your side, don t scold, demoralize or criticise, and specially, never throw YOU MUST DO s in faces Scary enough, resentments can be deadly and burn a lifetime 2 THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO GET ANYBODY TO DO ANYTHING, MAKING THE PERSON WANT TO DO Never forget that you can only get the best that is in a person by appreciation and encouragement Humans go insane to get a feeling of importance They need compliments as much as food and those will sing in their minds for years to come BUT heartily appreciation, not flattery 3 LEAD PEOPLE TO WHAT YOU WANT GENTLY if you can manage the conversation to say what the other want to hear and gently induce and persuade the other to do what you want, you will have the world at your feet NEVER EVER STORM Look for the other person s point of view Make the other person think that it is fun, nice and cool 4 DO GET INTERESTED IN THE OTHER PERSON GENUINELY When you see a group photograph that you are in, whose picture do you look for first Since people are only interested in themselves, not in you, not in me, you can make manyfriends if you areinterested in what they say than in talking about you Care especially about humble people BUT we may be interested in the other if he is interested in us Listen to the other 5 BABIES AND DOGS SMILE THAT IS WHY WE LIKE THEM SMILE You must smile, act as happy, be happy, trigger happiness Nobody is too rich not to need it not too poor to give it 6 A PERSON S NAME IS FOR THAT PERSON THE SWEETEST AND MOST IMPORTANT SOUND IN ANY LANGUAGE I have a personal great example of it one day I booked a flight from New York to London in a big American airline company, but when I got to the airport, I realized that I had missed my seat to a large group of people travelling together I went to the company desk to complain and when I got there, there was a lady whose name, V ronique, was in his identification card I calmly pronounced her name in perfect French, when she blushed She smiled and with wide open eyes said that nobody ever in the United States had said her name correctly, in French She assured me that she would find me another seat When she came back, with a big smile of gratitude she said that she was glad to be able to provide me with a seat in the first class 7 BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST LISTEN All that the other want is to be listened Listen with sincerity Intently Wholeheartedly Lavishly praise Appreciate Gaze Listen with the eyes and mind Don t talk about yourself Don t interrupt 8 BE INTERESTED IN THE OTHER PERSON S INTEREST If possible, find out in advance what the other person likes Talk about this 9 THE PERSON WILL LIKE YOU INSTANTLY IF YOU SEE AND SAY SOMETHING NICE AT FIRST SIGHT Everyone feel superior to you in some way Make sure you recognize and appreciate it Talk to the person about themselves, sincerely 10 YOU CANNOT WIN AN ARGUMENT It is not easy, but thank your opponent for showing you something First agree, then present your argument, softly To win an argument is as futile as being wrong Let the other expand the ego Pick the points of agreement Apologize 11 NEVER SAY DIRECTLY YOU ARE WRONG It hurts, because it struck their intelligence, judgement, pride, and self respect MAGIC I may be wrong You never get in trouble by admitting you are wrong it rather inspire justice 12 ADMIT YOU ARE WRONG BEFORE TOLD Trigger mercy There is pleasure in admitting errors and you knock down the other 13 NEVER SAY NO, NEVER The yes therapy gets your body ready to accept Moves the other person from the no realm, towards the affirmative direction Instead of saying no, ask a question that demands a yes.Finally, BE SYMPATHETIC TO THE OTHER PERSON S IDEAS AND DESIRES It is universal children show bruises, adults, surgery details We all crave for sympathy.There are muchto be said, but I hope to have stimulated you to read this fantastic book and find and learn still a great deal


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    This is the classic information Even though it claims to be updated for the digital age It isn t.The contents tells the story essentials of engagement bury your boomerangsaffirm what s goodconnect with core desires6 ways to make a lasting impression take interest in others interestssmilereign with the nameslisten longerdiscuss what matters to themleave others a little bit betterto merit and maintain trust never say you are wrongadmit faults quickly and emphaticallybegin in a friendly wayacce This is the classic information Even though it claims to be updated for the digital age It isn t.The contents tells the story essentials of engagement bury your boomerangsaffirm what s goodconnect with core desires6 ways to make a lasting impression take interest in others interestssmilereign with the nameslisten longerdiscuss what matters to themleave others a little bit betterto merit and maintain trust never say you are wrongadmit faults quickly and emphaticallybegin in a friendly wayaccess affinitysurrender the creditengage with empathyappeal to noble motivesshare your journeythrow down a challengeLead change with out resistance begin on a positive noteacknowledge your baggagecall out mistakes quietlyask questions instead of give direct ordersmitigate faultmagnify improvementgive others a fine reputation to live up tostay connected on common ground


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    Most of this is common sense, but that s not to say that everyone practices common sense especially in the digital age so it definitely has its use I love that all the points made in the original book still apply today, because at the end of the day it s about people not the form of communication I haven t read the original, but from what I understand this version isn t really any different other than the examples being set on social media and email While most people could still read th Most of this is common sense, but that s not to say that everyone practices common sense especially in the digital age so it definitely has its use I love that all the points made in the original book still apply today, because at the end of the day it s about people not the form of communication I haven t read the original, but from what I understand this version isn t really any different other than the examples being set on social media and email While most people could still read the original and get the same message, I really do think that you d getaha moments out of this updated version as it really does spell it out for you in a way you can implement now.I d heard of the original years and years ago, and was put off by the title I honestly don t know why maybe I thought it sounded like a handbook on manipulating people But the points made in this book are useful and can be extremely helpful to anyone struggling with communication whether it be business, family or friends related I can see why the original is a classic, and I m a big fan of this newest edition


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    great advice for, not only business, but also for private life it just shows you how to care , be friendly and non judmental with its consequences, i.e when people react to the affirmative and sincere you.


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    I find the wording and perspective interesting on, essentially, the same thing that the book written by Dale Carnegie shared Here is an overview of this book s Contents Part OneEssentials of Engagement1 Bury Your Boomerangs2 Affirm What s Good3 Connect with Core DesiresPart TwoSix Ways to Make a Lasting Impression1 Take Interest in Others Interests2 Smile3 Reign with Names4 Listen Longer5 Discuss What Matters to Them6 Leave Others a Little BetterPart ThreeHow to Merit and Maintain Oth I find the wording and perspective interesting on, essentially, the same thing that the book written by Dale Carnegie shared Here is an overview of this book s Contents Part OneEssentials of Engagement1 Bury Your Boomerangs2 Affirm What s Good3 Connect with Core DesiresPart TwoSix Ways to Make a Lasting Impression1 Take Interest in Others Interests2 Smile3 Reign with Names4 Listen Longer5 Discuss What Matters to Them6 Leave Others a Little BetterPart ThreeHow to Merit and Maintain Others Trust1 Avoid Arguments2 Never Say, You re Wrong 3 Admit Faults Quickly and Emphatically4 Begin in a Friendly Way5 Access Affinity6 Surrender the Credit7 Engage with Empathy8 Appeal to Noble Motives9 Share Your Journey10 Throw Down a ChallengePart FourHow to Lead Change Without Resistance or Resentment1 Begin on a Positive Note2 Acknowledge Your Baggage3 Call Out Mistakes Quietly4 Ask Questions Instead of Giving Direct Orders5 Mitigate Fault6 Magnify Improvement7 Give Others a Fine Reputation to Live Up To8 Stay Connected on Common Ground


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    The original may have been good, I don t know as I haven t read it But this version seems to be the transcript a business training company uses to teach the principles of Carnegie s original work, not a book written by a book author The tone of the book flops back and forth between what I think are Carnegie quotes and the modern lecturer s language Anecdotes are all over the place and far too often raise questions that are unrelated to the point the author is trying to make And, just as ofte The original may have been good, I don t know as I haven t read it But this version seems to be the transcript a business training company uses to teach the principles of Carnegie s original work, not a book written by a book author The tone of the book flops back and forth between what I think are Carnegie quotes and the modern lecturer s language Anecdotes are all over the place and far too often raise questions that are unrelated to the point the author is trying to make And, just as often, the stories have no effective lead in so I never know why the anecdote is being shared until after the fact


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How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age [PDF / EPUB] How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age AN UP TO THE MINUTE ADAPTATION OF DALE CARNEGIE S TIMELESS PRESCRIPTIONS FOR THE DIGITAL AGE DALE CARNEGIE s commonsense approach to communicating has endured for a century, touching millions and mill AN UP TO THE MINUTE ADAPTATION Win Friends PDF/EPUB À OF DALE CARNEGIE S TIMELESS PRESCRIPTIONS FOR THE DIGITAL AGE DALE CARNEGIE s commonsense approach to communicating has endured for a century, touching millions and millions of readers The only diploma that hangs in Warren Buffett s office is his certificate from Dale Carnegie Training Lee Iacocca credits Carnegie for giving him the courage to speak in public Dilbert creator Scott Adams called Carnegie s teachings life changing In today How to Kindle - s world, where and of our communication takes place across wires and screens, Carnegie s lessons have not only lasted but become all the critical Though he never could have predicted technology s trajectory, Carnegie proves a wise and helpful teacher in this digital landscape To demonstrate the many ways his lessons remain relevant, Dale Carnegie Associates, Inc has reimagined his prescriptions and his advice for this difficult digital age We may communicate today with different tools to Win Friends PDF/EPUB é and with greater speed, but Carnegie s advice on how to communicate, lead, and work efficiently remains priceless across the ages.

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About the Author: Dale Carnegie

Dale Breckenridge Carnegie originally Carnagey until Win Friends PDF/EPUB À and possibly somewhat later November , November , was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking and interpersonal skills Born in poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, first published in , a massive bestseller that remains popular today He also wrote a biography How to Kindle - of Abraham Lincoln, titled Lincoln the Unknown, as well as several other booksCarnegie was an early proponent of what is now called responsibility assumption, although this only appears minutely in his written work One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people s behavior by changing one s reaction to themBorn in in Maryville, Missouri, Carnegie was a poor farmer s boy, the second son of James William to Win Friends PDF/EPUB é Carnagey and wife Amanda Elizabeth Harbison b Missouri, February living In his teens, though still having to get up at am every day to milk his parents cows, he managed to get educated at the State Teacher s College in Warrensburg His first job after college was selling correspondence courses to ranchers then he moved on to selling bacon, soap and lard for Armour Company He was successful to the point of making his sales territory of South Omaha, Nebraska the national leader for the firmAfter saving , Carnegie quit sales in in order to pursue a lifelong dream of becoming a Chautauqua lecturer He ended up instead attending the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York, but found little success as an actor, though it is written that he played the role of Dr Hartley in a road show of Polly of the Circus citation needed When the production ended, he returned to New York, unemployed, nearly broke, and living at the YMCA on th Street It was there that he got the idea to teach public speaking, and he persuaded the Y manager to allow him to instruct a class in return for % of the net proceeds In his first session, he had run out of material improvising, he suggested that students speak about something that made them angry , and discovered that the technique made speakers unafraid to address a public audience From this debut, the Dale Carnegie Course evolved Carnegie had tapped into the average American s desire to haveself confidence, and by , he was earning the equivalent of nearly , now every weekPerhaps one of Carnegie s most successful marketing moves was to change the spelling of his last name from Carnegey to Carnegie, at a time when Andrew Carnegie unrelated was a widely revered and recognized name By , Dale was able to rent Carnegie Hall itself for a lecture to a packed house Carnegie s first collection of his writings was Public Speaking a Practical Course for Business Men , later entitled Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business His crowning achievement, however, was when Simon Schuster published How to Win Friends and Influence People The book was a bestseller from its debut in , in its th printing within a few months By the time of Carnegie s death, the book had sold five million copies in languages, and there had been , graduates of his Dale Carnegie Institute It has been stated in the book that he had critiqued over , speeches in his participation of the adult education movement of the time During World War I he served in the US ArmyHis first marriage ended in divorce in On November , , in Tulsa, Oklahoma, he married Dorothy Price Vanderpool, who also had been divorced Vanderpool had two daughters Rosemary, from her first marriage, and Donna Dale from their marriage togetherCarnegie died at Forest Hills, New York, and was buried in the Belton, Cass County, Missouri cemetery The official biography fro.