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  • Hardcover
  • 352 pages
  • Du forsvinder
  • Christian Jungersen
  • English
  • 09 August 2014
  • 9780385537254

10 thoughts on “Du forsvinder

  1. says:

    This was an interesting exploration of what defines the essence of a person When a person's personality is changed or distorted by brain disease or trauma which personality pre or post injury is the real one? How does that affect the person's partner and friends? The combination of neuroanatomy chemicals and hormones result in a uniue output and disruption yields a new output is either one less valid or real than the other? And how does it all affect the partner's obligations to that person? Or should it?Interesting and thought provoking and well researched

  2. says:

    This book is so hard for me to rate because even though I did find the story very enthralling and very much interesting I also found the writing style a bit odd at times And even though I understood the main character Mia and felt for her in her struggles I also despised her and her reactions at times I think you need to be in this situation yourself to truly understand it I like how this story is supported by pictures fragments of articles science reports and the like but I didn't feel like they became truly realistic because of the writing style the writing in the article didn't feel like the writing of an article with its odd vocabulary and structure All in all I have a hard time rating this book I'm between 3 and 4 stars but that's all I can say

  3. says:

    It almost seems like a contradiction in terms to call a book that focuses on the human brain “too cerebral” Yet somehow for this reader the term fits The premise is uite enticing a Danish headmaster Frederik Halling is on vacation in Maorca with his wife Mia and their teenage son Niklas when it’s discovered that he has a non malignant brain tumor and likely has had it for many years The tumor situated on his orbitofrontal cortex coordinates emotions modulates those all or nothing signals and provides a nuanced human expressionYet even after surgery all this is at the very beginning Frederik remains overly impulsive and indifferent Worse it uickly comes to light that he has embezzled from his local private school uite probably when the tumor was in its development stage Is he responsible for the crime? Was he aware of what he was doing? But even importantly who is the real Frederik? Or as Mia muses “Among all the thousands of chaotic little conflicts and oddities that make up everyday life in a family what’s the first episode however minor that I can point to and say Frederik wasn’t himself?”These are important uestions and the author makes the wise choice in muddying the waters with the character of Mia Not brain damaged Mia is hindered with a distinct lack of empathy In fact she’s selfish and an unreliable narrator and observer She too is a changed person so other uestions arise “What about those who change as a result of being with someone who has been transformed by a brain tumor? Physiologically and emotionally what lies at the core of our personhood?”This fascinating plot coupled with the obvious intelligence and research of Mr Jungersen should make You Disappear a runaway winner Yet there are two things that kept me from totally connecting The first I suspect is an overly literal translation There’s a certain distance in the narration that robbed me of a emotional involvementThe second is that Chrisitan Jungersen seems to straddle back and forth between enlightening and educating The research he put in is too publicly on display keeping me from immersing into that alternate world of a fictional work For instance “Since then I’ve learned that a tumor can make it harder or someone to multitask that it can lead to monomania Medically it’s certainly possible that it took root at the beginning of our marriage transforming my marvelous charming husband into an unfaithful workaholic That it then stopped growing until he earned to compensate and for three good years became like himself again” Granted Mia has steeped herself into research but from time to time I got the feeling I was being educated by the author; in the best of books that educational element is seamlessI’ve no doubt that this style will work for many other literary readers The uestions raised are so compelling that I recommend it despite my own subjective reservations 375 stars

  4. says:

    The irrational behavior of Frederik husband father and private school principal turns out to be a result of his personality altering brain tumor He loses any empathy he might have had for his loved ones and is arrested for having embezzled money As their life unravels his wife Mia hangs on to the it's not him it's the tumor explanation Egomaniacal Mia herself doesn't have a tumor to blame for her toxic personality She wallows in self pity obsesses about her teenage son's sex life and is blithefully unaware of her own culpability She knew Frederik was liar and a cheater long before the illness but hey all men are At least that's what Mia and her friends think The way they make excuses for appalling male behaviour you'd think every man in Denmark has brain damage The one decent man in their midst devoted to caring for his sick wife seems too good to be true Turns out he's only a nice guy because he bumped his head in the same accident that disabled his wife Yup The uestions Jungersen poses about free will identity and accountability are interesting but as a novel this didn't work for me

  5. says:

    So this book started off really good and I mean really good But as the story progressed I realized that I absolutely hated the main character It ended up becoming a struggle to even get to the end of the book because every page I read I got closer and closer to simply not being able to take another word of her self pitying selfishness She actually put it best when she said that her soul laps up egotistical pleasures and neglects my son and husband while stealing a sick woman's futureAnd let's not forget the over generalization and seemingly hatred of men and the message that the only good man clearly has to be brain damaged BlechWith how great this book started off I now feel letdown and than a little bit disappointed

  6. says:

    Is there such a thing as free will? It's a philosophical uestion that assumes heightened urgency with each new revelation in neuroscience Empathy the unconventional connections that comprise wit and a sense of humor behaviors and expressions that define our uniueness and even memories in short all the traits we apprehend as personality can be parsed into a flow of chemicals and electrical impulses stimulating various regions of the brain Author Jungersen selects as his subject orbitofrontal damage caused by a tumor in the brain of Frederik Halling the brilliant and committed headmaster of a small elite private school Interspersed throughout the story are explanatory texts on neuroscience These are the texts Mia Frederik's wife from whose viewpoint the story is told uses to educate herself about her husband's tumor and the effect it has on his neural functioning The tone of these texts is clinical “Orbitofrontal damage results in the injured person losing the uniue personal way he modulates his emotionsIt is characteristic of frontal lobe syndrome that the person who suffers from it mistakenly believes he is healthy and completely unaffected No test or argument can convince him otherwise The absence of empathy for others and of a sense for when he is about to make a poor choice often leads to a radically altered way of life for a person with orbitofrontal damage – even one whose injuries are so minor as to be undetectable by conventional psychological tests”The tumor is discovered by chance when Frederik has an accidental fall while the family is vacationing in Majorca Mia recounts their history together The last three years of the marriage have been idyllic After years of dedication to the welfare of the school and its children Frederik had finally taken time off to spend with the family That decision coincided with a traumatic episode in their lives Mia discovered Frederik had been having an affair not for the first time and she threw Frederik out of the house Then their teen aged son Niklas discovers her passed out on the floor next to an empty bottle of vodka and she wakes up in the hospital after having her stomach pumped Frederik is there when she wakes up and resolves to be a better husband Since then their marriage has felt perfect It is a shock she can scarcely endure that this period of happiness might end so soon and so abruptlyThe trajectory of the story up to this point appears predictable Mia struggles with her fears of being a caretaker to an invalid for the rest of her life She is convinced that Frederik will never fully recover and is appalled by his symptoms of alternating rage and indifference to her and his own inability to admit that the malady has changed him Her feelings of loyalty and obligation are mixed with rage and guilt The needs of the caretaker in this situation are given scrupulous coverage by Jungersenview spoilerHowever that's when the story actually starts to get interesting Jungersen has been misleading the reader just as Mia has been misled Frederik's tumor probably began to affect his behavior at least three years ago when he became a attentive husband The radical change in his behavior was the conversion from distant workaholic to solicitous family man The “real” Frederik was the man she felt had abandoned her emotionally The she considers when she knew the “real Frederik” the troubled Mia becomes She remembers that six years ago Frederik gave her a cheese for their anniversary Could that be considered out of the ordinary? But that was six whole years agoNow Jungersen throws in another shock Frederik had been embezzling money from the school and lost it making speculative investments The school is now bankrupt and Mia dedicates herself to uncovering evidence that the tumor is to blame in a desperate effort to prevent Frederik from going to jail Mia turns to Bernard a disabilities attorney she met in her support group Bernard is everything Mia could ever want in a man He's loving devoted empathetic and sensitive Despite the fact that he is married to a severely handicapped woman who was injured in a car accident Mia falls in love with Bernard and they have a clandestine affair But now here is the final shock Jungersen throws our way All of this time we have been viewing things through Mia's eyes – Mia the ultimate unreliable observer Though she denies trying to commit suicide that night her stomach had to be pumped the reader is filled with doubts We see her continue to rage at Frederik even when it's obvious that he has recovered Proof of that recovery is supported by his strengthened relationship with their son Niklas Finally we learn that Bernard was also in the accident that injured his wife He suffered a massive brain injury that totally altered his personality Is it the brain damaged Bernard not the “real” Bernard that Mia is in love with?Mia is the one who displays the lack of empathy and unrestrained impulsiveness of neural impairment The cumulation of her parents' troubled marriage her father's premature death the years of being emotionally abandoned by her husband his affairs and the thought that the angry resentful verbally abusive man she is living with is the “real” Frederik freed from the inhibitions of his frontal lobe – in other words life itself could have delivered her to this point There are subtle hints of a change early in the story Mia's best friend Helen senses an overly animated affect in Mia “'You should go home now It's great that you came But you're not yourself today'” Helen cautions Mia hide spoiler

  7. says:

    I won this book in the Goodreads lucky draw I began the journey of you disappear sometime back and it felt the narration just started out of no wherewithout any context what so ever This book took sometime to interest me With diminished interested I kept on turning the pages I was not really impressed by the introduction and the conclusion of the story but the in between plot kept me hooked to it I really enjoyed the core idea that the book dealt with The fundamental idea of the book is to make us think How would I treat a criminal if I knew that he cannot help himself but commit those crimes as his brain cannot differentiate between whats good and whats badI was intrigued by the impact our neurological health can have on our psychological health It can really happen with us and our near and dear ones There really is a world hidden from ours day to day life that deals with the victims and families of the brain damage This book is an honest insight into that lifeFredrick is the character whose illness due to brain damage grew gradually and his entire persona changed He became a responsible and caring husband and a loving father He also managed to coup his school of huge amount of money and gradually he became the worst nightmare of his family and his own self How could he have helped any of these changes in him He took the money as he thought he could get money and benefit his school better Provide his family better comforts Sure what became of him after wards would have been too much to deal for anyone The abusive loud lewd and self centered stranger who was a constant remainder of loss deceit sadness and lament for his family and friends Post his surgery he gradually improved but do you ever becomes your complete self with some part of you ripped out of you? Mia has been described as the lonely supportive loving caring and selfless wife who alone deals with the misery of her diseased husband moody son Niklas and nosy in lawsAfter reading the complete narration I cannot say with full confidence that she was a kind hearted soul Sure she suffered a lot and supported Fredrick through his illness and without doubt she had been through a lot But she didnt support her husband because she wanted to she supported him since she was expected to I do not deny that severe changes in the personality of your spouse wouldnt make you bitter but asking for help and admitting that you are not able to deal with it wont hurt anyone Keeping all the angst inside and heading towards martyrdom seems so pretentious She was attracted to Bernard Both of them had spouses suffering from the brain damage and both had almost broken marriages where in they were both the bearers of suffering of living a married life without actually a partner I do not despise the choice here What I didnt like is Mia trying to replace Bernard's wife Though she kept convincing herself that she was not In the end she also chose to be with Bernard whose personality had been tremendously altered due to the accident and he himself was affected by brain damageWe all can judge the characters and the story as we please But they are all honest The characters and the story alikeI kept on thinking what would have I done if I were to fill in the shoes of these characters and I kept on realizing I might have done most of the similar things The best part of the book is the research involved and information shared via short articles and excerpts about the neurological and orbitofunctional disorders in people I learned a lot after reading those articles and excerptsThe book would have been a gem had the ending been conclusive So many threads were left just hanging Throughout the book the characters were preparing for the hearing of Fredrick's case but the narration ends the day before it There are so many uestions left unanswered What came of Niklas his love life Helena and her life the support group was Fredrick convicted or did the jury agree that it was due to the disease that he committed the fraud did he get accepted in his group of friends did Mia finally find solace with Bernard the alteration of his brain damage of did she at a later stage again face issues again as she got tired of the perfect person she desired and craved some spontaneity What became of Bernard's wife and kidsThere are many times when a narration left with lots of uestions unanswered gives the readers a chance to use their imagination But I believe this one narration needed to give the closure a direction by answering the uestions left behind This is a good book to inspire the thinking of our brains to a entirely new reasoning we never give thought to Its a good one time read

  8. says:

    I won a copy from the First Reads giveawayI was intrigued by the concept I expected a novel that mixed science and marriage; the complexities of both that are both different and wonderful and terrible and uniue for each coupleInstead I got this1 Bland trite characters I read about wayyyy too much already; a doormat of a wife married to a scum sucking adulterer that is so charismatic and witty that of course cheats on her not once but at least twice because well he's so charming so that gives him license to so thats okay right? Are we supposed to sympathize with her? Understand why she stays with him? If the author had fleshed out his characters maybe I would have of an opinion perhaps but he didn't so I don't like Mia Or anyone else for that matter2 Mia the wife mentions the rude lewd coarse men she's had unfortunately negative experiences with a fact all women can relate to I'm sure so does this mention from Mia explain her rationale as to why she stays with Frederik? That all men are like this so she just sucks it up because it is what it is? It makes me even pre dispossessed to see her as an idiot someone who justifies her actions because she 'expects' all men to act like this because her father left her as a child and was a douche That explains it all of course3 All the pseudo scientific articles on brain injuries were interesting until it just got repetitive and started to blur in my head I began skimmingthen skippingbecause I couldn't see how it related to Mia and Frederik's ongoing marital issues Are we supposed to believe that Frederik is a philanderer because of poor frontal lobe impulses or whatever and all adulterers should be given a pass at their whoring ways? Does this give everyone with the penchant toward violence in all shapes and forms leeway and an excuse to claim it 'wasn't them that insert terrible act here and they should be rehabilitated and not jailed? Nope sorry not buying it4 Secondary and background characters like the in laws and her best friend and husband Henning? What was that scene part? When Mia wonders why her best friend married this rude loud mouth? Does it go back to #2 above? Blame is on the brain? Or are most women stupid and make stupid choices? More brain blaming?5 The 'affair' with Bernard is kinda funny I don't believe it There's no lead up; no chemistry no slow build up as to why they suddenly get together They're both lonely? Sure I get that They both have disabled spouses I get that too Still I wasn't interested nor did I care about the love affair I didn't feel the love sadly I also get the feeling the author was trying to pull a Jodi Picoult like twist at the end when we find out Bernard also has brain damage but it is 'positive' brain damage as opposed to the damage suffered by the embezzling Fred and all the poor saps in Mia's support groups I didn't gasp; I laughed Like I laugh at an old old episode of Jackass6 Then suddenly toward the end Mia gets an atheistic revelation? WTF? Where does this come from? Did I miss the turn at Albuuerue somewhere? What does this mean? Okay Mia is atheist That's fine But what does this mean? That Mia had her own mental breakdown and all was made clear and the universe laid bare and religion was a lie people told themselves because people of faith are delusional because we all in some way have brain damage and its this very brain damage that instills faith or 'lies' as the author calls it? Now I'm no Ned Flanders but when a book starts to get preachy I don't appreciate it7 I considered giving this book two stars but then I found myself slogging through the last 100 pages painfully I might add and realized I couldn't justify two stars I read for pleasure; to be entertained to laugh to be astounded to discover strange new worlds and new civilizations thanks Star Trek intro but after reading this book I wanted to give myself a lobotomy

  9. says:

    I received this book from NetGalley in exchange for a review I was intrigued by the plot A man has a brain tumor that drastically alters his personality leaving his family to figure out how to deal with their new reality and still try to remain a cohesive unit I really tried with this book I made it about halfway through before I just couldn't do it any I lost interest I found the son whiny the husband annoying and the wife a doormat I asked myself if I even cared what happened to any of them or how the book ended and when I realized that I didn't I threw in the towel This book and I were not destined to be friends

  10. says:

    I won this book in a goodreads giveaway and I LOVED it It is unlike any book I have ever read I was deeply connected to the main 3 characters while wound up in what was going to happen to them after the husband suffers a traumatic brain injury I was enthralled by the story but also LEARNED so much It was much than just a novel and I always appreciate when a book can teach me something Kudos to the author I would love to read by him

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Du forsvinder[PDF / EPUB] Du forsvinder Mia’s happy marriage is shattered when a brain tumor begins to change her husband’s personality beyond recognition As Frederik becomes a stranger before her eyes the revelation that he has used hi Mia’s happy marriage is shattered when a brain tumor begins to change her husband’s personality beyond recognition As Frederik becomes a stranger before her eyes the revelation that he has used his position as headmaster to embezzle millions from his school's treasury turns Mia's private crisis into one that involves the community But this disgraceful crime could become Mia’s salvation working with a defense lawyer to build Frederik's case they wrestle with the latest brain research and the uestion of free will Consumed by her new obsessions Mia must reexamine everything she thought she knew about her marriage and herself as she too starts to change You Disappear is an unnerving and riveting psychological drama that challenges our notions of how we view others and construct our own sense of self Jungersen's clear spare prose and ceaseless plot twists will keep readers hooked until the last page.

About the Author: Christian Jungersen

Christian Jungersen is a Danish author now resident in Dublin Ireland and New York City He is the author of three prize winning and bestselling novels.